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Good Advice from an Unlikely Source

March 10, 2010

Funny what you remember. 

When I got married fifteen years ago, there were plenty of well wishes, hugs and handshakes.  And I’m sure some advice mixed in.  I’m sure we were told not to go to bed angry, and to always kiss each other goodnight.  I can’t quite remember. 

But, after all these years, there’s one bit of advice that I clearly remember.  Wise words from a not so wise drunk.  This fellow was not a person you’d go to for advice.  He was an especially unkind man.  A man who was self-destructive and hurtful to everyone in his life.  He made a career out of hurting his wife and children.

He had taken full advantage of the open bar and was slurring quite a bit when he pulled us aside and gave us a bit of advice.

He said, “When you have good times, freeze them.  Then, when the bad times come, thaw one out.” 

Throughout the course of the night, he’d repeat this advice to us every time we were in close proximity. 

We sort of giggled about it.  It sounded so corny.  But, 15 years later, I find it’s advice we often take.  When things are particularly monotonous, the bills are all due and the laundry is piled to the ceiling with no end in sight, we begin to rumble around in our “freezer” and do a little “thawing.”

We relive some of our favorite vacation moments, or tell funny stories about the kids, or about each other.  We laugh and remember and are thankful that we’ve got good times to “thaw out.”  And then the bills and the laundry and the daily “sameness” don’t seem so bad.  We were facing the same stuff when we were making these memories. 

We’re still filling that freezer.  Some days more than others, but it’s good to know it’s there if we need it.

2 Comments leave one →
  1. March 10, 2010 9:07 am

    That’s actually pretty good advice, even if it was alcohol speaking! I like the analogy, I’ll have to remember this…

    Thanks so much for your comment on my blog and your concern for the girl I wrote about!!

  2. March 10, 2010 11:12 am

    How true, and what a great way to look at it when things are tough. We probably don’t do that often enough. I do, however, try to look all that is right in our lives and remind myself to be thankful.

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